really?

Remember the email I got?  Well, this guy announced his wife's pregnancy today on facebook.  She's due in June, so she was already pregnant when he sent it out.  I can't even congratulate them.  It makes me even angrier. 

It was hard to go back to work today after a week off!  I'm exhausted.  I wish I was able to sleep more when I was off of work.  It's too late now! 

I'm feeling like I'm being pulled into a dark hole.  I don't know how to catch myself from falling, but I'm trying.  B has been more negative about the donor thing.  I wish I knew how to convince him otherwise. 

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  1. SusanDecember 1, 2009 at 5:51 AM

    Emmy,

    I am so sorry that you are having to go through this. I definitely feel your pain.

    My husband has low sperm count (he had surgery to fix it, we find out in a month if it worked) and I have low egg count and PCOS like symptoms and not PCOS.

    We are also down one fallopian tube because our first pregnant (earlier in the year) wound up being an ectopic that ruputured my tube. Our RE has told us that our chances of conceiving on our own are 1-3% so we are left doing IUI's and then moving on to IVF. I am trying to lose weight to see if that will help with my fertility problems. I am down 10 pounds right now and I have about 90 more pounds to go (I have a blog where I write about that as well as my fertility issues).

    Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you and your husband. I know it doesn't seem like a lot with what we are facing but I hope it offers some help.

    -- Susan

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  2. LinDecember 1, 2009 at 9:30 AM

    Wow to both the e-mail and the announcement...especially since they were already pregnant before the e-mail. How very weird!

    I'm so sorry that you're having to go through that and that it's seemingly bringing up so many other raw IF emotions. Thinking of you and sending big hugs your way!

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  3. TexasRedDecember 1, 2009 at 12:52 PM

    I guess the most you can do is hope that the e-mail was a forward that they passed on without thinking, rather than something personally directed. I'd certainly treat it that way (and point that out, if they asked why you didn't respond).

    I'd also ignore the Facebook announcement, unless you think it'll cause more ripples later not to (a "Congrats" status note today may put off a real discussion, but there are plenty of people with stuff going on on my FB newsstream that I honestly don't see -- including friends' pregnancies). I'd just do whatever would minimize your need to converse with these people about this stuff.

    Just found out yesterday that our sperm count was much lower than the previous dr. thought. Means we're looking at IVF as almost a certainty now, and maybe a donor situation. I just want to hit people. Since I haven't told anyone at work about any of this, it's not something I can talk about / get any slack to deal with. Just trying to power through until quitting time.

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  4. WiseGuyDecember 2, 2009 at 5:19 AM

    Jesus! Maybe you should NOW write back and ask his responses to each of the questions he had asked. He needs a good buttslap!

    Oh yes, if I have an off for a little longer time, I don't feel like going back to work as well.

    I am so sorry that you and hubby are at such a painful juncture. I hope he comes around.

    xoxo

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  5. mybumpyjourneyDecember 3, 2009 at 7:15 AM

    UGH! That sucks. I am sorry about your DH's hesitancy. It is so heartbreaking to not know and to have so much waiting.

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