Once you do IVF and have a baby, you'll get pregnant

There are so many infertility myths, but this one has been coming up a lot for me recently.  This one is similar to the, "As soon as you adopt, you'll get pregnant" myth.  

Sure, people do adopt and get pregnant and people also get pregnant on their own after IVF, but that is certainly not the majority of cases.  Nor will it be the case for us.

My OBs are even guilty of spreading this one.  They (husband and wife team) had to use IVF to get pregnant the first time and they did miraculously get pregnant on their own soon after.  A few times during my pregnancy, one of them would ask how many kids we were hoping for, or make a comment about postpartum birth control.  I always said that we have no need for birth control and they would respond, "You never know what might happen!"  Um, yes I do.  A surgery exploring my husband's testicles couldn't find a viable sperm to use.  I don't think we will magically get pregnant.  And if we do, which really would take Harry Potter-ish wizardry, we will gladly take it.

Having a baby does not cure infertility-- in the physical or emotional sense.  Just because I had one baby, doesn't mean I'll be able to have another.  I won't find myself mysteriously pregnant-- it will take doctors and money to even have a chance.  The emotional side of infertility hasn't gone away with my pregnancy weight either.  I'm still jealous when I hear of others getting pregnant or have friends having their 2nd or 3rd kid in the time we've been trying.  It still stings and hurts. 

It's National Infertility Awareness Week. Infertility affects 1 out of every 8 couples. Find out how you can participate and provide support to 7.3 million people living with this disease:www.resolve.org/takecharge. This post is part of the Bust a Myth Bloggers Unite project.


Comments

  1. AmyApril 27, 2011 at 7:47 PM

    Thank you for your post for NIAW. My dentist said those very words to me just today! He knew we did IVF and said he knew "so many people who got pregnant with #2 easily after IVF." It makes it tough not to get your hopes up after hearing something like that and yet we know all too well that things don't always go as we would like.

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  2. foxyApril 27, 2011 at 10:21 PM

    Hi Emmy! Nice to see everyone come out for NIAW. Great post. I went to my first prenatal yoga class tonight, crazy I know, and it was so hard to hear the other ladies tailing about this being their second or third like it was no big deal. But the really cool thing was that there was another lady in the class who also struggled with infertility for five years that followed me out and exchanged phone numbers.

    I hope that you are enjoying your little one and will share some stories with us soon :)

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  3. someday-soonApril 28, 2011 at 8:25 AM

    I feel the same way. When people ask if we'll have another I just say "if we're lucky enough to be able to". {{{HUGS}}}

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  4. MichelleApril 28, 2011 at 10:48 AM

    Nice post!
    As a fellow Azoo girl I understand. Everytime someone says that to me I want to scream "No Sperm".

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  5. EllaApril 28, 2011 at 2:28 PM

    Great post, Emmy. I hate when people spout that crap like they know what they are talking about, or think it will make someone feel better.

    I hope everything is going well!!

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  6. KrissiApril 30, 2011 at 6:03 AM

    Great post! I too am guilty of thinking it might be possible. I tried naturally without success after 3 IVF cycles gave me my daughter. Sadly, we had to do another 3 cycles (with a LOT of heartache) to get pregnant with my twins. I just wrote a similar myth about not being infertile anymore after you're a mom.
    I wanted to congratulate you on your baby! I would love to feature your success story on my blog. Here's the link: http://stressfreeinfertilityblog.com/2010/01/17/calling-all-success-stories/
    Thanks so much in advance!

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  7. yvonne loveMarch 30, 2014 at 3:23 PM

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  8. Camille ValdezMay 27, 2014 at 6:11 PM

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