appointment update

Second semen analysis confirmed 0 count. Ultra sound showed everything normal. Urologist doesn't recommend biopsy or continuing to try to have our own kids. He says move on to adoption. I say find someone who specializes in NOA. Off to the mortuary.

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  1. Somewhat OrdinaryMarch 18, 2009 at 10:32 AM

    I'm so, so sorry to hear this. I know you are already hurting from your brother's passing and it would have been so nice to hear there was something to work with. My husband has NOA.

    If you want to talk about any of this stuff you can e-mail me at somewhatordinary at gmail dot com

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  2. EllaMarch 18, 2009 at 10:41 AM

    Emmy, I know there is nothing I can say to make things easier for you... I have no words to express how sorry I am for all you are going through.

    I did find an article out of Cornell University about NOA and a study they did... you might have already seen it...

    http://www.cornellurology.com/infertility/srt/azoospermia.shtml

    I am thinking of you.

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  3. LesleeMarch 18, 2009 at 11:09 AM

    My husband has obstructive azoospermia and we were told the same thing by our (insensitive) urologist. Boy, those were fighting words! I like the link Ella posted above. It's full of great information. And, same as Somewhat, please email me if you have any questions: boldiebabie at yahoo dot com.

    I'm so sorry about the week you've had. You're in my thoughts.

    Leslee
    babyattheend

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  4. itsazooaroundhereMarch 18, 2009 at 12:17 PM

    I'm really sorry the results weren't more positive. Maybe you can take a break from those results for a little while. When you are ready to figure out your next steps, please let me know. Our diagnosis was the same, and Kaiser had done all they could do.

    But, there are great specialists who can do wonderful things these days, and we now have more than 400 sperm in cryopreservation. Enough (hopefully) for an IVF/ICSI cycle. Donor sperm is also a great option that I can talk to you about too (as could some of the other ladies who've commented here).

    I'm not trying to say you should move forward in any one direction, but just know that there ARE options should you want to pursue them. You can email me anytime at itsazooaroundhere at gmail dot com, if you need anything.

    I was thinking about you all day yesterday. I'm so, so sorry for what you are going through.

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  5. B MoMMarch 18, 2009 at 12:33 PM

    Hi. I'm here from LFCA. I just wanted to say that I'm sending you support from miles away. I know things seem horrible right now. One day at a time, you'll get through it. You and DH together....

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  6. elizabethMarch 18, 2009 at 12:34 PM

    Ugh - so hard to hear. Just thinking of you and aching for you. Came over from virtual lushary.

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  7. OpheliaMarch 18, 2009 at 1:08 PM

    {{{HUGS}}}

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  8. To A TMarch 18, 2009 at 3:25 PM

    I'm sorry you are getting another blow this week :( My heart hurts for you hun!!

    HUGE (((HUGS)))
    Sending you tons of P&PT!

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  9. RikkiMarch 18, 2009 at 3:46 PM

    I'm sorry the results where not what you hoped for. I'm still praying for you and your family.

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  10. MissyMarch 18, 2009 at 5:17 PM

    Emmy, just another thing you didn't need to hear at this time (or ever). I'm so sorry.

    {{{HUGS}}}

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  11. baconsMarch 18, 2009 at 6:51 PM

    I am so sorry, (((Hugs)))

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  12. alisontalkingMarch 19, 2009 at 7:37 AM

    Oh, Emmy, I'm so sorry!

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  13. LorzaMarch 21, 2009 at 10:09 AM

    I am so sorry Emmy. I wish I could do something to help you feel better, but just know that I am giving you lots of hugs through this keyboard.
    Lots of prayers heading your way for you and your family.

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  14. What IF?March 22, 2009 at 9:22 AM

    Emmy, I'm here from Lorza's blog and just wanted to say how sorry I am for all that you're going through right now.

    I'd like to add to Ella's link by saying that when you're ready, you might consider going to Dr. Schlegel at Cornell for a consult, because if anyone can find sperm, it's him. (We're dealing w/ male factor too.)

    http://www.maleinfertility.org/

    You and your family are in my prayers during this extraordinarily difficult time.

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  15. Fashionably InfertileMarch 22, 2009 at 10:11 AM

    I am here through Lorza's blog. You have really been through a lot. My heart hurts for you and your family. Take each day as it comes. You are going to be experiencing a lot of emotions. When you are ready deal with IF. I will second the opinion at Cornell. Heard nothing but amazing success stories. If not, there are other options. I am at that stage right now....and completely lost. Take care of yourself sweets! ((HUGS))

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  16. thewormsMarch 22, 2009 at 11:28 AM

    I'm so sorry for all you are going through. My husband has NOA and we just did mTESE and found no sperm. We saw Dr. S at cornell, he is the best.

    If you have any questions, my email is on my blog.

    (((HUGS)))

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  17. MelissaMarch 22, 2009 at 5:25 PM

    Hi Emmy,
    I am soooo soooo sorry for what is going on. I lost my brother in Sept of 2007 and they have deemed his death as accidental. We will never know the real story. I can definitely empathize. It took me a very long time to not be completely insane about it, but I am here to tell you that eventually that pain in your chest will go away. If I can do anything please let me know. Feel free to email me at mmurphy520at gmaildotcom ((((HUGS))))

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  18. justadrienneMarch 26, 2009 at 3:41 PM

    Emmy, I can't believe how much bad news you have had--I am certain you don't deserve any of this. I think you should definitely look for someone who specializes in NOA. What is your DH feeling about all of this? I will be thinking of both of you, and hoping that answers are near. (((HUGS)))

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